Were you wait-listed at one of your top-choice colleges? Depending on your perspective, you can interpret that as either good or bad news. On the one hand, it’s more encouraging than getting rejected. On the other, being wait-listed prolongs the stress. It also makes it hard to take your other options seriously. Here’s what to do if you’re wait-listed for college.
How you handle the situation should be based on several factors: how appealing you find your alternatives, how badly you really want to attend that top-choice school, and what role financial aid will play in your decision. It’s also important to know yourself and to gauge how much uncertainty you can stand this late in the game.
A student’s chance of getting accepted off a wait list is about one in five, according to research by the National Association for College Admissions Counseling. But that’s a national average that includes many different kinds of colleges. If you’re on the wait list at one of the most selective schools, your chances may be slimmer.
Today, as many colleges fill about half their freshman class through early admissions, high school students are scrambling to keep up with a changed timetable. Your chances of getting into the school of your choice may dwindle if you wait for the regular admissions deadline.
And there’s money at stake, too, because financial aid options may be different for early admissions. I wrote a detailed article about early admission trends last year.
Now I’d like to explain how you can make sure early admissions doesn’t place you at a disadvantage. The key is to recalibrate the whole timeline of your college search and application process. Once a student starts high school, you can take steps to lower everyone’s stress levels and increase the odds of success. But, no matter what year of school a student is in, it may be necessary to pick up the pace.
Not long ago, high school students and their families who began touring colleges during the spring and summer of junior year could be confident that they were on top of things. Now the summer after junior year is late to begin college visits. I advise students who are thinking about early admission to start their college research—and do at least some visits—during sophomore year.
Ever since you can remember, people have been telling you how necessary, how crucial, extracurricular activities are for your college resume. In addition to top grades and stellar test scores, a schedule packed with impressive extracurriculars is an absolute must. At least, that’s what everyone says. But is it true?
The answer depends on how you define “extracurricular” and what you make of it.
The most selective colleges are indeed interested in how you spend your time outside of class. Very interested. They want to know you’re not just another academic grind—that you’re a fully developed person with a range of abilities and interests. If you happen to have a serious talent, or an area of special expertise, they’ll be especially impressed.
But, if you think you need to be the captain of both your high school lacrosse and debating teams, to edit your school newspaper, be chief fundraiser for three afterschool clubs, head of the prom committee, and spend your summers building housing for the poor in Sumatra, you don’t get it. And if your mom or dad is pushing you to spread yourself this thin… ask them to stop.
Welcome to November, seniors. Just when you think things can’t get any busier, they get busier! Just as you’re trying to complete those supplemental essays and keep up with your schoolwork, people tell you that you really ought to be interviewing with reps from all your favorite colleges.
But, since most schools claim these interviews are “optional,” it’s tempting to skip the stress and focus on the essays. Of course it’s tempting! But should you?
In recent years, colleges, admissions counselors, alumni and parents have hotly debated the value of the college interview. Some claim interviews play little role in the admissions decisions at many schools and ought to be phased out. Others argue the interview can give an applicant a leg up and is very important. Who should you believe?
First, it depends on the school. Some schools—even those in the top tier—simply don’t offer interviews. Amherst doesn’t interview. Nor does Berkeley. Nor do most state schools. At those schools it’s not an issue.
When I was a teenager, my friends and I laughed at the phrase “good manners.” We knew there was a famous book by Emily Post on the rules of etiquette that offered instructions on how “polite” people were supposed to act.
The book, we’d heard, was filled with directions on how to select the proper champagne flute and where to place a caviar spoon. That was all we needed to know. Etiquette and manners were for the very rich and the very old. It had nothing to do with us. Obviously.
Despite this irreverent attitude, most of us complied with our parents’ basic instructions on how to behave. We said, “please pass the salt,” at the dinner table (instead of simply reaching), shook hands when introduced to strangers and wrote thank-you notes when friends or relatives sent us birthday gifts. We grudgingly accepted these minimal rules. They were easy enough to follow, and they seemed a small price to pay for our future admission into the adult world.
The new—but surprisingly familiar—etiquette
That was back in the days of embossed stationary and thank you cards—before email, texting and other advancements. Emily Post is long dead, though a revised version of her book lives on. And there is no doubt etiquette will never be the same.
While many high school students opt to do their college visits during the summer, there are good reasons to go during the school year. That’s when you’ll find students and professors on campus and get the most accurate picture of college life.
Guidebooks and websites can provide you with descriptions, ratings and photos. But nothing can take the place of being on a campus, talking with people and observing the social, cultural and academic environment.
Be sure to check each school’s website before planning your visit. You’ll want to attend both a tour and an information session, so it’s important to visit when those are scheduled. You may also want to eat in the dining hall, just to soak up the scene.
High school freshmen, sophomores, juniors and seniors will naturally have different purposes for their college visits. It’s important to consider your own objectives ahead of time.
In September many high school seniors focus intently on writing their personal essays—and rightly so. A strong essay is a crucial component of your college application package. If you haven’t completed a personal essay you’re proud of yet, you should do so…pronto.
But amidst the hubbub, it’s easy to lose sight of the other writing challenges you’re about to face.
Known variously as “writing supplements,” “supplemental essays,” “college-specific essays,” “individualized essays” or simply “supplements,” these little essay assignments can be found at different locations on the Common Application—or on the Universal College Application, if you’re using that system. In some cases, the writing supplements pop up as surprises, just when a student believes he or she is almost finished. This is not the best time to have your first encounter with a probing admissions question.
The most selective colleges
Are you applying to the most selective colleges? If so, you’ll probably be asked to write supplemental essays for most of the schools on your list. These colleges all have their own questions they’ve labored over… and they are very interested to hear your response.
What does it take to become a good writer? Many think it’s all a matter of talent. Some say inspiration is the primary thing. Others believe that, as long as you know the rules of grammar and punctuation, you’ll do fine.
The truth is that becoming a good writer is both simpler and harder than any of that. The ability to write well is not encoded on a gene you’re born with. Nor is it something you can learn in a flash or get from one book. Instead, it takes a lot of time and work.
Becoming a writer is much like becoming a musician. Practice is the key. You have to invest many hours, over a long period of time. That’s the only way to develop facility and technique. If you don’t have those things, inspiration won’t be much help.
Nobody expects a beginner to pick up a violin for the first time and be able play a Bach partita. With music, we all know it doesn’t work that way. But somehow, when it comes to writing, people tend to think that anyone can do it. You just need to follow a set of rules—rules that the mythical English teacher was supposed to have handed out on a sheet to everyone’s 7th grade class.
In fact, there is nothing as easy as a sheet of rules to tell you how to do it. Instead, there’s just a lot of work. In psychological terms, writing often requires blood, sweat and tears.
Why should writing be so hard? After all, everyone can talk. And writing is pretty much like talking… right? Actually, it’s not. Writing is to talking what violin playing is to humming. There’s a connection, but it’s slight.
Attention seniors! The 2014-2015 Common Application has launched. That means you can start filing your college applications now… if you’re ready.
The Common Application (known as the Common App) is a portal for more than 500 colleges and universities, that allows students to complete multiple applications electronically. Not every college uses the Common App, but many—including some of the most selective schools—do.
A few colleges use alternatives, such as the Universal College Application or their own websites. And some schools, including Harvard and Princeton, allow students to apply using either the Common App or the Universal.
So you think you know what it takes to get into Harvard? There’s the perfect 4.0 GPA, the 800 SAT scores, the long list of AP and honors classes and the resume packed with leadership positions such as head of the debate team, the lacrosse team and the school newspaper. To top it off, there’s that classic crowning achievement…being named the class valedictorian.
That’s more-or-less what it takes, right? Well, not exactly.
As a college admissions counselor and the mother of a Harvard student, I am here to tell you that gaining admission to Harvard—or any number of other highly selective colleges—is at once easier and harder than you might think.
It’s easier because a 4.0 GPA and perfect SAT scores are not required. (Although, if you have them, it certainly doesn’t hurt.) Nor must you flaunt a five-page resume with an array of stunning achievements, covering the gambit from mental gymnastics to third world philanthropy to impressive sports. The truth is you really don’t have to be superhuman. You just have to be an excellent student and … interesting.